Going through a break up can be really hard, especially when you have spent a large chunk of your life with that person. Having to go through the grief of the breakup and losing that someone while also sorting out what you are going to do in terms of splitting anything can be really hard so here are a few tips to help you manage your break up with your long-term partner.
Talk Things Through
The best thing you can do with each to make it easier is to just talk to one another. If you talk things through and don’t shout and scream when trying to resolve things then it will go a lot smoother and will put less stress on both of you. If you are unable to talk to each and be civil then it may be a good idea to do it with a mediator who will be able to sit down and speak with the both of you to help the conversation move in the best direction.
Be Fair And Kind
When you are going through the legal aspect of the split if necessary then make sure you are fair and kind to one another so that the talks can go smoothly. If you have children involved in the breakup then being fair and kind will help to stop things going further to court and stop the split having an adverse effect on the children involved. If you are sorting out days for when you will see the children or who has the pets etc then just be civil and fair when setting it up which will make things easier for the both of you and allow you to get through the ordeal quicker and with less stress. If you need help with sorting out who will have the kids when and for how long, then you can use child support to assist with this and make sure that you come to an agreement you are both happy with.
Give Yourself Time To Grieve
When going through a breakup it is best to give yourselves some time to grieve and get over the split. This helps with your mental health and also is great if you have children as it also gives them time to get used to their parents being split. If you are rash and just jump straight back into a relationship it can end up being too soon for you which can then lead to the breakdown of another relationship. It also helps the children as they may not be ready for a new potential step mum to be added into the mix so giving them and yourself time to adjust will help in the long term.
Breakups are hard even if they are for a short period of time so if it is a long term relationship then it will be twice as hard. Dealing with a breakup in the wrong way can lead to a long and arduous battle with your ex-partner which will affect the both of you and the people around you to so following these tips will help to get your through the breakup as smoothly as possible.